At Resolve It, we offer family dispute resolution services through Nelson, Tasman and Marlborough.
Family disputes are very painful. Unlike a work dispute where you can always change jobs or just avoid certain people, a family is life. These are the people we have shared so much with, including a family cultural heritage. For some families, it’s hard to remember how a dispute began and this results in a conflict becoming further entrenched. Family members will often wait for the other party to make the first move. Sometimes it can be loyalty to one side that hinders making those moves.
At Resolve It, we have the skills to support you, getting you to a better place. We help parties move from past blame to a more constructive relationship. Shifting the focus from rights and entitlements to interests and goals. We’ll help you find your way from no or limited communication to more open communication. Above all, we support you throughout family dispute resolution, so you can solve problems together.
The Process of Family Dispute Resolution
Initially, we work with the different parties to understand your goals, issues, values and hopes. This initial step allows you an opportunity to vent your feelings safely. If parties agree we can have a joint meeting helping you understand each other’s views, working towards a way forward. This may involve a few sessions and there may be tasks to complete in-between time.
We work throughout Nelson, Tasman and Marlborough and can help you manage conflict within your family relationships.
A Personal Note from Judy Fanselow:
I’ve been offering family dispute resolution services throughout Nelson, Tasman and Marlborough for some time. One of the earliest things that got me interested in dispute resolution and mediation was a friend’s experience. She had fallen out with her siblings after the death of their parents. The dispute stemmed from conflict over whether to sell or retain the family farm. This caused a rift for some years which was very painful for her.
Fortunately, for her and her family after a few years, they were able to rebuild their relationships. This was a huge emotional relief. About the same time, I read an article written by a woman who was left less money than her siblings in her mother’s will as her mother considered she needed it less. Her mother may have felt she was doing the right thing but it caused much grief and heartache for that daughter.
The point is that family disputes often arise in circumstances that are painful enough to deal with on their own. The added suffering that a conflict causes can be avoided with the correct intervention.